Should a Hypnotherapist use a client’s arm to test if you are in a trance!
There is only one answer to this …NO, most certainly not.
Over the past 11 years of professional practice and three years of teaching Hypnotherapy I’v seen thousands of clients make tremendous changes without any physical touch from me what’s so ever.
Increasing success rates
Let’s look a little closer at the most apparent reason; people just don’t want to be touched by strangers even when they give consent. There is a strong possibility a person is going to be meanable, and agree with you moving their arm even if they don’t want you to. If that happens only 1% of the time that’s 1% too much in my view. Your priority is your client’s welfare and that action could be the make or break of a successful session.
As a Hypnotherapist, we have a standard to uphold. There is a trust from every client that their safety and well fair is paramount.
There is a new standard of hypnotherapist now, and that’s why I have set what I teach apart from the rest and called this discipline Interactive Hypnotherapy. Moving away from any residue of stage hypnosis which includes lifting your client’s arms or having to press your finger lightly on your client’s forehead, maximises the possibility of success.
The number one challenge for my clients wanting to use their subconscious mind to let go is the abundance of conditioning they are subjected to regarding stage hypnosis.
‘WILL THEY LOSE CONTROL’ OR MORE IMPORTANTLY WILL THEY LOSE THEIR CONTROL TO YOU.
As a professional, I have to address these doubts every time to ensure clients have no misconceptions about Hypnotherapy and reassure clients stage hypnosis is for entertainment, not therapeutic change.
The sooner the older trained Hypnotherapist move away from this grey area of moving their client’s arms. The sooner we’ll notice an even more significant portion of the general public taking Hypnotherapy more seriously and not confusing it with entertainment.
The conclusion is; get to know your trainer if you are thinking of learning and see if they teach to a good standard or from an old outdated practice.
The same goes for when you want to look for a Hypnotherapist too, but the biggest mark of professionalism is how you feel about that person. Feelings are the currency between the conscious and subconscious, the powerhouse of your mind.
Your subconscious mind will let you know if A Hypnotherapist or Hypnotherapy trainer are a good fit for you as it also guides you in every other aspect of your life, whether you listen to it or not is another question.
Remember … Every day is a hypnotic day
Hypnotherapy workshop Bangkok – Dealing with symptoms, not the cause.
Hypnotherapists have two schools of thought; identify the symptoms, and focus on alleviating the pain caused by the symptoms, or look further for the cause.
An amateur Hypnotherapist will focus on what is presented in front of them. Which is the most straightforward solution because the client will exhibit that symptom most of the time. The question is, are clients always right, or is it worth digging deeper to find an alternate idea?
Let’s look at one of the most common conditions of the twentieth century; excess weight.
There are thousands of reasons why people are overweight. Lack of exercise and overeating are at the forefront. However, let’s dig a little deeper and use an example to explain the case.
The way we look physically is a clear example of how we want the world to see us. If we have been subjected to a traumatic experience (remembering that trauma is also subjective), that can influence our physical appearance. The subconscious mind can change the way we look simply by adding weight. In the hope of drawing less attention to ourselves, using Hypnotherapy and the subconscious mind we can help let go of such experiences. Also in a fast and efficient way to bring immediate ease to symptoms, in this case, a change in how we look from the outside.
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I know that this blog is, in all likelihood, going to put a few hypnotist’s noses out of joint, but I believe that it’s time to clear up the myriad misconceptions about stage hypnosis once and for all.
The illusion of control surrounding hypnosis which arises from such shows does, unfortunately, have a hindering effect on the immediate progress that people who have debilitating phobias, fears, habits and limiting beliefs can make in just one session.
I want to illustrate the process a hypnotist will go through to organise a stage hypnosis show.
I will give you two versions of events, and I want you to pick the one that you know as being reality.
A hypnotist wishes to host an event, so he hires a group of van-driving ‘kidnappers’ who arrive in a town and abduct numerous people by putting sacks over their heads, hustling them into a van and driving them to a local venue whereupon they are put into seats as the hypnotist bounds onto the stage saying;
“Da-darrr….you are taking part in a hypnosis show”.
Sound familiar? No, I didn’t think it would.
Here is what really happens. The hypnotist will select an area to advertise in and use all conventional means to publicise their show including printing tickets, posters etc and relying partly upon word-of-mouth to help publicise the show and one person will say to another;
“Hey! there is a hypnotists show in town, do you fancy going?“
The reality then is that people will buy tickets of their own free will and attend the event in the knowledge that some members of the audience will be a part of the performance.
The hypnotist knows he will need audience participation or the show won’t be a success. The hypnotist will be aware that approximately 20% of the population are susceptible and 5% are super susceptible to stage hypnosis. How do you think the Hypnotist differentiates between the ones who are willing or even good hypnotic subjects, and the not-so-willing. A professional can see who they are but, even more effective than that, they will just ask “Who wants to be part of my show?“.
The hand-picked members of the audience are asked to walk on stage of their own free will.
I might add one more time, in case it was not obvious the first time. The members of the audience who are most susceptible to hypnosis tend to be those who love to act, be the centre of attention or feel a calling to be a singer, drawn to karaoke; it doesn’t mean they will be good at these things but they are hard-wired to perform in some way.
This is obviously a generalisation and I’m sure some introverted individuals have ended up on stage, but I’m also sure that the effects may have been different. So, when they are checked for their ease of going into that trance state, this clearly identifies the willing vis-a-vis the not-so-willing and the show can begin.
During the show people may be asked in that trance state to look, for example, for their left arm or talk to the audience in an alien language. This can be entertaining and cringe worthy at the same time; perhaps that is merely the perspective of an introvert that wouldn’t be seen dead on a hypnotist’s stage show.
Most importantly, no one at any time was forced against their will….but there was an illusion of just that. Unfortunately the same perspective is applied in the mind of many people to hypnotherapy, they are not able to differentiate between the two. This invariably leads me to have to explain stage hypnosis to virtually every client who comes to see me.
When I first began as a qualified hypnotherapist I would witness clients making substantial immediate changes and it never ceased to amaze me. My passion for helping others encouraged me to notice people with the same complaints; I was trained to listen to people talk about their challenges; the world had changed for me. There was a new frequency to tune into, one of facilitating others, inadvertently aligning myself with a calling. The same calling I see my students aligning themselves with and also finding a great sense of fulfilment in their life.
Every so often I would come across someone who had the same challenge as a previous client, and I would insist on helping them, convincing them of the change they were capable of. Do you think that there would have been the same outcome of immediate change after coercing that person into a session? No, certainly not and for one very simple reason; it was against their free will, one of the unwritten laws of the Universe.
We all do what we want and if forced into an alternate attitude, at some point, we will revert back to an old behaviour or mentality because it was probably still serving us in some way.
I hope this blog helps to clear up the control aspect of hypnotherapy and gives you reassurance.
All hypnosis is self-hypnosis.
You are in control and only you can let go or create a brighter future, that is your responsibility and no one can take that away from you.
Hypnotherapy is an amazing way to make instant changes in your life, dealing with the powerful subconscious mind, rather than the limited conscious mind which (most other but not all) traditional facilitators focus on, for example, counselling, psychology and psychiatry.
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Is Hypnotherapy more powerful than NLP
As a trainer of Interactive Hypnotherapy and an NLP master coach, I’m often conflicted in explaining which one is better. A better question is when to use each modality? Let the client be the guide…
I was about to outline some pros and cons when a vivid thought came to mind of a client from many years back. She was in a car accident, and her three other friends died in the car. Let’s call her Elisa because all my client’s sessions are confidential; all qualify with celebrity status in that regard.
Elisa was a young lady searching for answers. This event changed her life in ways we can only imagine, the accident left her asking ‘why?’ and created a phobia of traveling in cars. When she told me, I was shocked, but I didn’t want to show that; I wanted to remain calm to support her in the story she was telling me.
There was lots of talk of philosophies and perspectives of life between us but the grip she had on the story was strong. My attempt to comfort this experience was limited and I knew there was a greater part of her subconscious mind that was projecting these feelings of dread into her consciousness, like a firework exploding in her mind, triggered when she traveled in cars. I could almost feel the words she was using to express the event.
I didn’t ask about the accident but let her tell me what was relevant. I wanted to keep her out of that ‘loop’ as much as possible, knowing it could trigger her emotionally and that could have a negative outcome on the session.
If I was to use NLP to help Elisa release these feelings, she would have to go into or even see the event – and this is where hypnotherapy trumps NLP for me. Although I use NLP, I wouldn’t for this kind of severe trauma.
I’ve successfully facilitated change in many clients with similar levels of trauma, without going anywhere near the actual event. For me, this has to be a better alternative. If there is an option, why take your client into or be near a traumatic event when there is a calmer (and in my professional opinion), safer alternative?
If Elisa was to go and see a psychiatrist, psychologist or a counselor she may have ended up on medication, plus all those years of traveling to talk and discuss the events; the latter could ultimately reinforce the emotion, making those synapses of the brain an even more frequently traveled loop.
Elise was able to let go of the emotional connection to this event in one session. Yes, she will always know what happened – the aim isn’t to hide or erase that event but to sever the negative emotional connection to that memory. There is a very simple explanation to this, but it will digress from this particular blog, so I will write about it next time.
To summarize, NLP is very effective, and there is no doubt about that, but it has limits, where hypnotherapy can carry on with the heavy lifting. Combining Interactive Hypnotherapy is leaving the choice and responsibility to change with the client.
This modality gives the practitioner the ability to negotiate with the client’s subconscious mind; it often feels like negotiating with a terrorist, taking you and the client to places neither knew existed. But that’s the beauty of Interactive Hypnotherapy, it’s your client’s journey, and unlike NLP, as a Hypnotherapist are along for the ride. You are stepping into the reality of the client with Interactive Hypnotherapy – not taking control or making the client fit into a box that they might not be ready for.
Instant Success also depends on the quality of the hypnotherapist’s training. I once heard of a lady in Manchester who offers stop smoking sessions. She told one of her clients to imagine he was in a coffin as that is what was going to happen when he died from smoking. Needless to say, he left and later developed a phobia for small spaces! No surprise there.
We are at the mercy of our fellow practitioners and their quality of service because it’s a direct influence on our practice. This is why we must be aware of the quality of our training and do our research into the trainers and their philosophies on the modality they teach.
Picking a practitioner is not so different from opening the yellow pages and picking a plumber; there are good plumbers and not so good. I hope this blog will encourage you to be the best plumber for your clients, helping them unblock as much crap as possible in one session… they are capable of it – my clients are living testament to that.
1.Is stage Hypnosis real and do we lose control?
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